You’ve been there. I know I have.
You look at your upcoming schedule and spot a stretch of relative normalcy, where you could realistically commit time and energy towards getting big or lean or “just” getting healthy.
To really nail it, you even hire a coach or invest in a meal service and demand your family also gets on board. No more half measures, Mr. White.
Day 1 arrives and you nail it.
Day 2 and Day 3 as well. Crushing it.
And then on Day 4, it happens. Stuff blows up.
Your job. Or your knee. Or maybe your InstaPot after your idiot kid used it to quick-dry 10 pounds of local Thai stick.
Social media wisdom says you should buck up and keep going. To find the opportunity in every obstacle or some other tired cliché.
But while most obstacles are not totally insurmountable, many still require recalibration. Which can require a brief pause.
This is why I never harshly judge anyone who “starts and stops” the fitness process. Especially if they’re new to the game or they’ve never experienced success at it.
However, this isn’t ‘Nam, Donny. There are rules.
- You can only stop if you promise to re-start. And by promise I mean mark a HARD date on the calendar when you WILL re-start. No excuses.
- You can not make the same mistake twice. This means during your hiatus you (we) figure out EXACTLY why you fell off the rails and how to realistically prevent it from happening again.
- You agree to still do SOMETHING every day even while you are recalibrating. Even if it’s just reviewing your original reasons for wanting to get in better shape. And if your motivations weren’t honest and genuine then hitting pause is actually a very GOOD thing
- You agree that when (not if) you do re-start, you may have to do half as much “stuff” but twice as well. Success is starting small and building slow. Not piling on.
- You don’t call yourself or think of yourself as a loser or failure. Ever. This is non-negotiable.
A football player who just doesn’t quite have it and gets sent down to the practice roster isn’t a loser, as long they keep trying to learn and get better.
But a “starter” with all the tools but still phones it in or breaks off his routes is a loser every Sunday.
No matter what the score says.